Big Brothers Big Sisters of Central Wisconsin
YOUR CHILD'S PERSONAL SAFETY QUIZ
Children and teens often don't tell about being sexually abused...
because it is mostly very young children being abused and they don't have the right language to tell.
because they are afraid that they won't be believed or will get into trouble.
because all children and teens are threatened by their abuser.
because most victims are pretty young and the abuse is not a big deal.
Child sexual abusers are...
almost always older men.
never other children.
mostly teens and adults who the victim knows.
mostly teens and adults the victim doesn't know.
If my child was sexually abused...
they would always show at least small signs of abuse.
they might not show signs of abuse that I could see.
I could count on my child telling me.
they would defintely show sudden changes in their behavior like bed wetting or lying.
Compared to younger children, teens...
have the same kind of safety needs as younger children.
have the skills and experience to keep themselves safe.
have very different safety issues and need to be talked to in a different way.
find it hard to talk with their parents, so they should get most of their information from school friends.
Telling your child “If I’m not around, think of your ‘Big,’ just like another parent and listen to what they say to do”...
should only be done with children above the age of 12 years old.
should never be told to children of any age.
is fine if you've known your child's Big longer than a year.
is fine for both younger and older children.
Monitoring all types of communication between the Big and the Little (texts, emails, social media, etc.)...
is BBBS staff’s job during the first year and then parent's job after that.
is what BBBS staff do to keep children and teens safe.
prevents the Big and the Little from building trust with each other.
is what parents are expected to do to keep their children safe.
Grooming is...
what an abuser does to look physically better to the victim.
what we teach children about personal safety, such as boundaries, to check-in with adults, and to stay in groups.
how an abuser gets children to feel comfortable with sexual talk, pictures or videos, and personal boundary violations before abuse begins.
only used with children and not with parents.
A boundary violation is when someone’s rules about their own personal safety are broken. Boundary violations...
may include words that hurt people.
are almost always about sexual safety.
are almost never about physical touching.
are just about physical safety and sexual safety.
If your child says that they were abused, you should respond by...
calling other parents of children who may have been around the abuser to see if they were abused too.
asking them what they could have done to stop the abuse.
listening to them, telling them that it’s not their fault, and calling the police right away to report the abuse.
getting as much information as you can to be sure they are telling the truth.
Parent/Guardian First Name
Parent/Guardian Last Name
Parent/Guardain Phone Number
Child's First Name
Child's Last Name
Child's Date of Birth (mm/dd/yyyy)
Contact Information