These rules are based in in-depth studies of mentoring successes and challenges during the last 100+ years since Big Brothers Big Sisters of America began. They are important for ensuring youth safety, adult liability protections, and healthy, happy outcomes for all parties.
GUIDELINES AND GROUND RULES FOR BIGS
As a Big, I will:
1. Be consistent and dependable in the commitment to my Little for the duration o f my
match.
2. See my Little at least 2 times per month for at least 5 Hours per month.
3. Respond to and maintain monthly contact with my Match Support Specialist and
understand that if I do not, my match may be closed. I will participate in all aspects of
this match support process: initiating and returning calls, completing surveys/evaluations, attending trainings, and attending meetings related to my match.
4. Not take my Little to my home within the first 3 months. Thereafter, I must receive
approval from my Match Support Specialist and the parent/guardian before having a
home visit. Visits occurring prior to Match Support Specialist and Parent/Guardian’s approval will result in closure.
5. Be responsible for the cost of match outings, focusing on free and low-cost activities. I
will check with my Match Support Specialist before buying any expensive gifts or
coordinating higher-cost activities.
6. Keep any personal information that I learn about my Little and their family members
confidential, aside from sharing it with my Match Support Specialist. I will not keep
secrets from my Match Support Specialist.
7. Agree to follow all guidelines listed in BBBS’s social media policy.
8. I will support BBBS SLO fundraising events so that more children can benefit from having
a Big.
9. Be involved and participate in agency activities, allowing me to connect with matches
within the program.
10. Understand that when I’m with my Little, my attention should be focused on our
Relationship.
11. Initiate calls/texts on a regular basis to schedule outings with my Little. I understand
that I am responsible for contacting and scheduling outings, and if I have difficulty with
this, I will contact my Match Support Specialist for assistance.
12. Arrange match activities in advance with the parent/guardians, not just the Little. I will
secure approval before any match activity, and I will not involve my Little in any
activities with which the parent/guardian or Little is not comfortable.
14. Pick up and drop off my Little at their front door. I will check-in with the parent/guardian
and discuss how the outing went, as well as when I plan to be in contact again.
15. Be understanding when an issue arises between myself and my Little, or parent/guardian.
I will contact my Match Support Specialist immediately and be willing to work together
in order to reach a solution. If at any time I feel I cannot continue in my match, I will
contact my Match Support Specialist to discuss the closure procedures.
16. Give parent/guardian and Match Support Specialist up-to-date emergency contact
phone numbers and names, as well as updates in my phone number, address and
place of employment.
17. Not leave my Little unsupervised or with any other adult or child if I am not present.
18. Be the only approved person to transport my Little. I will follow all traffic laws and safety
suggestions to ensure my Little’s safety, such as not speeding, using seat belts, and
having children under 13 rides in the back seat. I will not text while driving. I will not
talk on my phone while driving unless it is an emergency.
19. Not physically discipline my Little. If I am having difficulties with my Little, I will
communicate my concerns to their parent/guardian and my Match Support Specialist.
20. Not use alcohol or drugs while I am with my Little or be under the influence of drugs or
alcohol while I am with my Little. This includes prescribed medications that may impair
my ability to be alert, safe, and use clear judgment.
21. Ensure that any weapons/firearms are inaccessible, at all times, when my Little is with
me.
22. Consult my Match Support Specialist and receive approval from my Little’s
parent/guardian before engaging in high-risk activities (i.e. zip-lining, boating, ATV-ing,
canoeing, rock- climbing, paintball, etc.).
23. Report any safety issues surrounding my Little to my Match Support Specialist.
24. Not allow any overnights between my Little and myself. Unapproved overnights
will result in closure.
It is essential that all participants understand these Guidelines and Ground Rules, so please reach out to your Enrollment or Match Support Specialists at any time if you have any questions.